I remember some years ago

// October 1st, 2009 // Life

I was in New Hampshire with Rachel spending the day with my dear friend and her family. One conversation that we had some years ago has been replaying in my mind over and over again but its funny because that conversation wasn’t anything “special” to me or her. As the winds of change seem to be blowing in my life I hear the conversation, I see it in my mind. My friend was talking about her children and the friends she has made with the other kid’s parents. The summary of the conversation was that you seem to make good, long-term friends with the parents of your oldest child’s friends and the subsequent children’s friends parents don’t usually become a big part of your life.

The parents that I became close with through Rachel have all moved on, keeping busy with their 4th graders and their activities. I have this beautiful 5 year old daughter and all of the parents of her friends seem to be taking the place of the friendships I should have through Rachel. I have to make the most of these new friendships and really make an effort because long after Rachel is gone I will have needed to invest in friends and life for Julie and the boys.

Its so sad. So unfair. So ridiculously depressing. I knew something wasn’t “right” with Rachel a long time ago. I just can’t believe it is this. Give me autism, give me an attachment disorder, give me bipolar disorder.

Just not this.

8 Responses to “I remember some years ago”

  1. Eileen/Granny says:
    10/2/2009 at 6:17 am

    Friends are a strong part of my life. I still remain good friends with our childrens friends parents after 40 years. Keep in touch with all your friends, as family & friends will carry you through your life with John Rachel Julie London & Boston.Keep friends & make more .!!
    Hugs as ever Mum XX

  2. Melissa says:
    10/2/2009 at 10:33 am

    Well I don’t know how you feel about me, but I consider you a lifelong friend. I’m not going anywhere! I am also here to talk if you need me, you know that, right? xoxox

  3. Melissa says:
    10/2/2009 at 10:34 am

    also wanted to add, I am only friends with one of Courtney’s friends parents, so this doesn’t ring true for me either. I guess though I am only friends with one of Collin’s too. Hmmm maybe its me. ;)

  4. Jan Judge says:
    10/2/2009 at 9:56 pm

    Kat you are really right about that , I stil am close to the people i met thru my oldest child and am not really friendy with my youngest, You are wise that you realize this and make an effort as hard as it is with all that is going on, to make friend with the other kids parents,
    I have a chronic illness, and have now only 3 good friends. I think everyone else thinks I fell off the face of the earth. Healthy people move on and dont even consider how lonely i get and am mostly confined to the house. Your family is in my prayers, You are going through a living hell

  5. lulu says:
    10/9/2009 at 8:59 pm

    You are right….anything but this. I just got all teary-eyed reading that! You should write a book.

  6. lulu says:
    10/9/2009 at 9:02 pm

    btw…Im not going anywhere…and we didn’t meet through kids (9th grade, baby)!!!!

  7. The Maven says:
    10/10/2009 at 11:12 pm

    Just not this, mama. Just not this. :( *hugs*

  8. ~L~ says:
    10/18/2009 at 7:25 pm

    Here. Listening. ((hug))

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